A Secular Wedding Blessing

A Secular Wedding Blessing  

Below is a wonderful example of a secular wedding blessing, in other words, a non religious wedding blessing.  This wedding blessing neither invokes God, deity, saints, avatars, religious figures nor in any particular way enters a traditional realm of spirituality.  Yet, this secular, non religious wedding blessing expresses wisdom and a beautiful list of wishes, to the bride and the groom, that if materialized and present in daily lives will keep the marriage healthy, profound and strong. 

Blessing for a Marriage
by James Dillet Freeman

May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring,
and may life grant you also patience, tolerance, and understanding.
May you always need one another - not so much to fill your emptiness
as to help you to know your fullness.
A mountain needs a valley to be complete; the valley does not make the mountain less,
but more; and the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it. 
So let it be with you and you.

May you need one another, but not out of weakness.
May you want one another, but not out of lack.
May you entice one another, but not compel one another.
May you embrace one another, but not out encircle one another.
May you succeed in all important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces.
May you look for things to praise, often say, "I love you!" and take no notice of small faults.

If you have quarrels that push you apart,
may both of you hope to have good sense enough to take the first step back.
May you enter into the mystery which is the awareness of one another's presence,
no more physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side by side,
and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or even distant cities.
May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy.
May you have love, and may you find it loving one another